Let’s Talk: Coping During Challenging Seasons of Life

The following was written by editor Kara Fleck.

This isn’t the post I intended to write for today. The truth is, not much has gone according to plan the past few weeks. We’re going through a busy time of life at my house right now and I’ve been feeling challenged.

My husband’s work is starting to ramp up for their busiest time of the year, which means longer hours for him and less time at home.  We’ve learned to adapt to Christopher’s schedule over the years but this year, as I face the upset stomach and exhaustion of the first half of pregnancy, coupled with the flu that recently worked its way through our household, I’m finding that I’m feeling overwhelmed.

I have to keep reminding myself to step back and get some perspective.

I thought I’d share a few of the ways I’ve been coping and then open up the comments for discussion today on dealing with the busy seasons of life.

And so, to remind myself as much as anyone else, here are a few things I’ve learned during life’s challenging times:

Life Happens

Life just happens.  Illness.  Pregnancy.  New babies.  Family crisis.  A parent going back to work or picking up an extra job or more over time hours.  Perhaps your family has recently moved or is remodeling your home.

Some things we can control and there are also things we cannot.  For good, or for bad, events occur and circumstance present themselves that can be a challenge to navigate.

During those times, I’ve found I have to remind myself of a few things:

  • This too shall pass.
  • My goal is peace, not perfection.
  • My best is enough. Even if it is merely the best that I can do right now.
  • It is okay to ask for help when I need it.
  • Focus on the basics and let the rest go for a while.

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Weekend Links

I have decided this rainy day is going to be devoted to crafting, baking, and reading (with a little garage clean out thrown in for good measure). What are you up to this weekend?

Simple Holistic Helps for the Special Needs Child

The following is a guest post from Cara Faus of Health, Home, and Happiness.  Thank you, Cara!  We’re honored to have you here today to share your thoughts and experience with us.

Even before I had a special needs child, I valued taking a holistic approach to treating any health problems that came up. I believe that nearly any physical problem indicates an underlying issue, and so the entire body should be taken into consideration when seeking treatment. This has been especially true with my child with autism, I have found looking at her issues as a whole to be the most effective way of helping her.

Today I am going to share some of the tips that I have found that made the biggest difference in her life. Differences that have allowed her to learn more, be happier, and grow healthily.

Learning About Sensory Issues

Learning about sensory issues was one of the biggest ‘ah ha!’ moments in our lives. Many special needs children have issues with how the message of sensory input gets to their brain. In our case, my daughter is over sensitive to light and visual sensation, and under sensitive to physical sensation.

This means that she gets overwhelmed with bright lights and when there is too much to look at (think big-box stores!) and craves physical touch to the point of acting aggressive and clingy while she tries to fulfill that need. When the needs for less visual stimulation and more physical stimulation are met, she is able to regulate her emotions, learn, and is much happier!

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