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6 strategies for dealing with your parenting critics: handling criticism graciously, but firmly.


If you admit to the world that you’re not the Mother of the Year, folks will step forward agreeing with you, most in a spirit of camaraderie, one parent in the trenches to another.

But a few will come out of the woodwork just to tell you how you’re mucking up the job.  I’m okay with this because I know it is a side effect of blogging and putting my parenting on public display.

But what about if you aren’t putting your parenting on display?  What if you are just going about your normal day, living your life, raising your kids, and suddenly out of nowhere you find yourself being attacked.

If you are a parent, chances are a few of your choices have drawn some criticism.

I’ve developed a fairly thick skin for this, and most of the time I can laugh it off, because I know I’m not perfect and I know that it is okay that I’m not.  But it seems to me that lately my social circle is abuzz with “mommy bashing” and comparison, as if those “mother of the year” awards actually exist.

Everyone has a passionate opinion on how children should be raised.  I’m not convinced that is a totally bad thing, either.  I’ve appreciated having my thinking challenged at times, either because it cemented my own views or because it caused me to open my mind to another idea.

However, there are those who take it a step further and openly criticize or attack the parenting choices of others. 

  • Fact #1: We aren’t going to be able to please everyone.
  • Fact #2: There are those who want to make sure we know that!

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