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Creating family friendly routines: stay flexible, stay sane.

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This week I’m talking about keeping our sanity and our smiles by creating family friendly routines.  This is easier said than done in the face of play groups, extra curricular activities, sports, clubs, family events, church, school, and all of the other things that can be competing for a family’s squares on the calendar.

I am a mama who likes to have a general rhythm to her week  and her days, as I believe it helps both myself and the kids to have anchor points.  Planned activities break up the potential tedium of life with small children with something fun and it allows me to go on “auto pilot” each week. However, even a routine planned out with the best of intentions can cause problems if it is too rigid.

One of the key things I’ve learned about family rhythm and routines is to stay flexible and allow yourself to make changes if things aren’t working.  This one is tough for me sometimes because I can get so mentally married to my pretty schedule and color coded system that it is hard to let go of it, even when part (or all) of it just isn’t working.

Perhaps the day of the week you chose for crafting with your kids is creating stressful afternoons because there isn’t enough time to devote to a project between nap time and dinner preparations (not that I’ve totally made that mistake or anything).  Or maybe you’ve discovered that your regular library day coincides with preschool story time and the kid section is packed, which is a completely overwhelming situation for your toddler.

By staying flexible you can play around with your schedule until you find a day and a time that are a better fit.  Or, you might even find that dropping the activity altogether is the best thing for everyone.  It doesn’t mean you are saying no to that forever, it just means that right now you’re letting it go.

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