Readers, I’m so happy to share this guest post with you today that was written by my friend Kathy Stowell. I think you’ll love what she has to say about adding rhythm to your days. – Kara
Maybe it’s the half-Latina in me but, ay carumba, I love rhythm! But it wasn’t always this way.
I resisted rhythm at the beginning of my parenting journey because of my mom. A full-blooded Latina, she really pressed upon me the importance of a strong daily rhythm with a new-born babe in the house.
Unfortunately, at the time, she used the word ‘routine.’ Something about that word repelled me back then and I resisted. So I went about my happy, ‘no rhyme or reason’ ways. But, as it turns out, Mamisita was right. Embracing a strong rhythm to our family’s days offers a whole host of benefits.
Luckily, I noticed this in time for the welcoming of our second child four years later.
By then, I’d observed that the stronger a family’s rhythm, the smoother the days ultimately flow.
And there are other pulse-loving perks along the ways such as:
- Mama is more easily afforded the time and space to rejuvenate in whatever way feels most delicious to her.
- Behavior challenges from the kids (or from ourselves) are quickly pinpointed and soothed.
- The kids get to sleep with less fuss and wake up well-rested.
- Predictable islands of communion are looked forward to and offer deeper nourishment for our bodies and souls.
How do you go about getting more rhythm into your family’s days? Here are five simple ways:
1. Start the day off with a mama-only morning ritual that speaks to your soul.
A good song always starts with a good bang of the gong. (Yes, I have eccentric taste in music.) Set the tone to a cheery, rhythm-rich day by ensuring you embrace a guilt-free ritual to indulge in.
This musing comes courtesy of a latte-soaked moment sitting at my computer while my husband does his wholesome, yoga practice beside me. I’m over the self-judgment. What counts is that you start with unadulterated bliss so you may inspire the rest of those you encounter with your good morning vibes for the remainder of the day.
2. Remember rituals from your own childhood and be inspired by them.
My brother and I were given a bath every Sunday afternoon. I remember how Sundays always smelled like Mr Bubbles and cozy flannel jammies. Ironically, I’m probably the world’s worst bath giver ever. (Again, releasing judgement.)
Be inspired from your own youth and see if you can offer the golden memory of ritual into your own children’s childhood experience.
3. Sing a song somewhere.
When the kids were younger, I sang them a morning verse when I opened up their curtain to welcome in the day. We sang a verse too before dinner until it was apparent that I was the only one singing. Now we just offer each other what I call ‘googley eyes.’
A simple place to start your sing-songy ways is to sing at hand washing time. It can be simple and silly. We sang the verse “Three Men in a Tub” and the deal was to rub the bubbles until the song was over. Great way to ensure that the soap gets smeared around some and to literally add rhythm to the day!
4. Ensure politeness is observed in your daily interactions with each other.
What a sweet way to be introduced to the concept of anticipation. It always feels like something is missing now when the ketchup is passed out without a precursory ‘please.’
This is such a simple way to bring an aspect of rhythm into the day along with the reminder that, in this house, we treat each other with respect and gratitude.
5. Finish the following sentence: In this family, we…
Rhythm-building has the uncanny side effect of building a family’s sense of identity that will later help form the foundation of a strong sense of self, as our little ones bust a move out in the real world.
Start small. Start pragmatic.
Some ideas might include: In this family, we …
- say thank you
- wash our hands before we eat
- take our shoes off at the door
- all help clear the table
- have pancakes on Sunday
Share your sentence out loud a couple of times this week and feel into how it sounds and how it feels.
I hope these five tips got your inner Latina at least tapping her big toe a bit in anticipation to a tiny bit more rhythm in your family’s life.
I would love to hear how some of this might look for you.
In the comments, do share how you might finish the sentence “In this family, we… .” I’m looking forward to dancing a bit to the sound of your gong!
Kathy Stowell is the founder of Mama Bliss Coaching School where she trains moms to coach other moms to find their bliss from within. She’s a certified Simplicity Parenting Coach and Kaizen-Muse Creativity Coach. Her work on becoming a blissful mama has been published by Leonie Dawson, Tiny Buddha and more. She is a wife, a proud mom of two kids and loves a mean latte. Sign up for her free ecourse Money Bliss: How to Earn an Income from Home (and still be an awesome mom) by clicking here.
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