Early Birds and Night Owls: Finding Ways to Create Rhythm for Divergent Needs

The following is by contributor Amanda Morgan of Not Just Cute.

“Music creates order out of chaos: for rhythm imposes unanimity upon the divergent, melody imposes continuity upon the disjointed, and harmony imposes compatibility upon the incongruous.” – Yehudi Menuhin

Routines are wonderful for creating continuity and a predictable rhythm in your family life. But what happens when the internal rhythms of individual members of one family are drastically different? Perhaps nowhere is this difference in personal rhythm more striking than at bedtime.

One Room, Many Sleep Patterns

We have three boys sharing one room. While our oldest is often hammered from the day’s activities, our middle son remind us almost nightly that he is “noctownal” and doesn’t actually need sleep. (Sometimes we almost believe him.) Our youngest still naps, so depending on how that goes each day, he may be out as soon as his head hits the pillow or he may still be winding down for a while. I’m certainly not ready to spend three hours in a revolving door of three separate bedtimes, so we had to come up with a routine that would fit different rhythms.

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