The following was written by editor Kara Fleck.
This isn’t the post I intended to write for today. The truth is, not much has gone according to plan the past few weeks. We’re going through a busy time of life at my house right now and I’ve been feeling challenged.
My husband’s work is starting to ramp up for their busiest time of the year, which means longer hours for him and less time at home. We’ve learned to adapt to Christopher’s schedule over the years but this year, as I face the upset stomach and exhaustion of the first half of pregnancy, coupled with the flu that recently worked its way through our household, I’m finding that I’m feeling overwhelmed.
I have to keep reminding myself to step back and get some perspective.
I thought I’d share a few of the ways I’ve been coping and then open up the comments for discussion today on dealing with the busy seasons of life.
And so, to remind myself as much as anyone else, here are a few things I’ve learned during life’s challenging times:
Life just happens. Illness. Pregnancy. New babies. Family crisis. A parent going back to work or picking up an extra job or more over time hours. Perhaps your family has recently moved or is remodeling your home.
Some things we can control and there are also things we cannot. For good, or for bad, events occur and circumstance present themselves that can be a challenge to navigate.
During those times, I’ve found I have to remind myself of a few things:
- This too shall pass.
- My goal is peace, not perfection.
- My best is enough. Even if it is merely the best that I can do right now.
- It is okay to ask for help when I need it.
- Focus on the basics and let the rest go for a while.
What is Essential?
Melisa of A Little Garden Flower talks about how you should ask yourself “what is essential?” and then do only that.
It is always interesting to me in those challenging seasons of life what is truly essential. Usually, there are many things we can let go of – either temporarily or perhaps even permanently – that just aren’t as essential as they appear at first glance.
I’ve gotten into the habit, as a list-loving person, of writing down a list of what I need to get done and then going back, with the question of “what is essential?” in my mind. There are always things I can cross off of that list.
A few articles that I believe are helpful reminders during the challenging seasons of life:
- When One Parent is Sick ::: this was a guest post recently on Simple Mom by Sarah Park of Pear Budget
- 10 Guilt Free Non-Suppers ::: from Simple Bites, the “non supper” has certainly helped a busy or stressful day end on a smoother note around here more than once!
- When Life Changes – What Works for You? ::: from the Simple Kids archives, the discussion in the comments on this post contains some good advice from parents who have been there, done that.
- Bringing Your A-Game vs. Being Super Mom ::: from Visionary Mom Lisa Delzer, who has a knack for writing just the reminders I tend to need as a parent
- Back to Basics: How to Be Content ::: from Carrie of The Parenting Passageway. My favorites are no. 8 and no. 10
What about you? Are you currently going through a challenging season of life? What works for you during those times? What doesn’t work?
The comments are open for discussion and I’d love to hear what you have to say.