The following was written by contributor Robin Zipporah of The Not-Ever-Still Life. It originally appeared in November of 2010.
When Hanukkah begins this Wednesday night I’ll light the brightly-colored candles with my family, sing the ancient blessings and traditional songs, and delight in my kids’ enjoyment of the holiday. And then I’ll wash dishes or pay bills or fold laundry, I’ll tuck my little ones into sleep, and I’ll prepare for work on Thursday.
In terms of religious significance Hanukkah is actually a minor festival. We make time in our schedules to remember a long-ago miracle but we move about our regular days. It’s a little sparkle at the beginning of winter. Its significance is conflated because of its proximity to Christmas, but really, they’re not in the same league.
Still, I think there’s something in Hanukkah for everybody:
1. Let your light shine out.
The two-sentence version of the Hanukkah story is that when the Eternal Flame in the Holy Temple in Jerusalem was extinguished, only enough oil to relight it for one day could be found. God made the day’s oil ration burn for eight days, the time it took for messengers to travel and return with more rations. Jews light the Hanukkah candles to remember the miracle of the oil, and they light them in their windows and doorways to publicize the miracle. What gifts can you share with your neighbors?
2. Develop the long view.
We’re commemorating a story that occurred over 2000 years ago. It still matters. Can you imagine what impact your actions will have in 2000 years? How can we add relevance to our everyday lives?
3. Make a fuss.
Okay, so it’s true. Hanukkah really isn’t all that significant in the Jewish calendar. But isn’t it fun to make a big deal out of little things? For the same reason that my almost-five-year-old doesn’t have any loose teeth yet but already looks forward to a visit from the Tooth Fairy, we have special Hanukkah plates and try to find extra little ways to make the holiday special. A piece of chocolate here, an extra book at bedtime there…one of the greatest privileges of parenthood is finding ways to add moments of happiness.
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4. Cook up a storm.
Traditional Hanukkah fare is latkes, or potato pancakes fried in that oil we’re remembering with this holiday. They’re good, but a little involved for typical weeknight fare. Get your kids in the kitchen with you, and share the duties. Maybe they’re not old enough to fry at the stovetop, but at every stage there is something they can do to help and feel involved.
5. Dare to be different.
If you’re going to light candles in your front window each evening, you might get asked to explain why. Being Jewish rarely feels more self-evident than in the Christmas season (and here’s a great children’s book on the subject), but we all have something that makes us different. Celebrate you, and teach your kids to do the same.
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6. Learning should be fun.
The Hanukkah game of dreidel is really just a mnemonic to help kids remember the holiday’s message. The four Hebrew letters on the sides of the spinning top stand for the phrase: A Great Miracle Happened There. Every Jewish kid knows that phrase, and learned it via play. Sometimes the most effective teaching moments are the most unobtrusive ones.
7. Share, and share alike.
The great thing about playing dreidel is that it never really ends. According to the rules, players add to or take from the pot (usually comprised of chocolate coins or pennies) according the letter displayed on the dreidel after theirs spin. Every time the pot empties, the players each replenish it from their own piles. In any circumstance where kids learn to share, take turns and cooperate, everyone wins.
8. Eight is enough.
Anything too drawn out loses its luster. We celebrate for eight days to remember the duration of the miracle, and as much as I enjoy Hanukkah I’m always glad when it’s done. Besides, calendars reliably repeat themselves, and I know what I have to look forward to for next year.
(Do you need some ideas to enhance your Hanukkah celebrations? Take a look at Eight Steps to a Meaningful Hanukkah.)
What is your favorite family holiday tradition?