The following is by contributor Jaimie of Two Chicks and a Hen.
Two years ago, when I was a relatively new stay-at-home mom, I googled “stay at home mom routines.” I had been working outside of the home since high school. For the first time, upon the birth of my second daughter, my work took place inside the home, and I needed some help adjusting and getting organized. It was at this time that I found Simple Mom, and I found Tsh’s advice really helpful. I started reading other mom blogs and really identified with a lot of what I was reading.
Fast forward to September 2009: I became a single mom. I still needed and valued the ideas and inspiration the parenting blogs offered, but it was at this time, and not a moment sooner, that I started to notice something: the vast majority of the parenting media is aimed at married mothers and two-parent households. And this is fine if you live in a two-parent household. Advice and ideas for those homes is valuable and necessary.
But what about the rest of us?
Solutions like “to encourage night-weaning, send your husband in when your toddler wakes” are only helpful when there is another parent in the home. And after awhile, you either learn to tune this out, or you start to feel alienated. If you’re a single mom reading this, what I’m telling you right now is not news. You’ve no doubt read lots and lots of suggestions that you under no circumstances could actually use.
And if you’re not a single mom, you’ve probably not noticed this. I know, because I hadn’t paid attention until I myself became a single mom. And that’s OK. There’s no way anyone can possibly write parenting columns that apply to all families at all times. I do, however, believe that we might expand the offerings in the parenting media to encompass a wider variety of family structures.
And since I know about life as a single mom with small children, and I live it every day, I’m thrilled to be on board at Simple Kids as the single parenting contributor.
Photo by Jaimie
Does Simple Kids really need a regular single parenting columnist?
Single parents are not a tiny niche group. Around 13 million families in the US alone are headed by single parents. There are certainly plenty of us out there. Beyond that, as the comments on my previous post help highlight, there are plenty of other parents who, while not single, find themselves alone for great periods of time—military wives, spouses of those who travel frequently for business, and more.
And, I imagine, even parents who are not single in any sense of the word might also find useful ideas in a post on single parents. After all, we still have more commonalities than we do differences in our daily challenges to raise happy, healthy children.
As we approach the new year, I’m looking forward to sharing experiences and advice in order that we might all achieve our parenting goals in a peaceful and positive manner.
I’d like to put out a call to all readers—single parents, sometimes single, or not at all: what would you like to see in a post on single parenting? What topics interest you, and what challenges are you facing?