Comments on: Nurturing Independence in Our Children

By: Tony Lawlor

Tony Lawlor — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 18:19:27 +0000

Hi – how can I get in touch with some of the chidlren’s authors you mentioned. I have a property I would like them to work on with me. Do you have e-mail addresses or contact numbers for any of them?

Regards
Tony Lawlor

By: Simple As That: Come on, get a little muddy! — Simple Kids

Simple As That: Come on, get a little muddy! — Simple Kids — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 14:42:43 +0000

[...] water. Each of them are fairly adept with the garden hose, so I’ve been allowing them the independence to saturate that bed on their own while I dead-head and tend to what is left of our spring [...]

By: Rob O.

Rob O. — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 13:18:11 +0000

I agree with Mandi - if the work & lifestyle habits of Gen Y is teaching us nothing, it's that we aren't doing enough to foster independence and assumed personal responsibility with our kids. One of the tenets of Jim Fay & Foster Cline's Love & Logic program is to give children the freedom to make choices and discover the consequences of those decisions at as early an age as possible. They emphasize allowing childrens' mistakes to be a natural teacher so that they'll be better prepared for decisions and problems they'll face later in life. Of course, the advocate that you control the choices to a degree so that the options only include what you can tolerate. Sensibly, they don't intend for you to allow your child to truly endanger himself, but he could, for example, opt to not wear a jacket today even though you mentioned that it could be a chilly day. The repercussions of that decision are ones that you can live with, but will also teach your child much more than words alone could. Rob O.’s last blog post..Happy 4th of July

By: Honoring the Sovereignty of Our Children | Turnitupmom

Honoring the Sovereignty of Our Children | Turnitupmom — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 01:26:31 +0000

[...] I read a thoughtful piece, Nurturing Independence in Our Children, written by Megan at Simple Kids. In anticipation of July 4th, she challenged readers to think [...]

By: LaToya

LaToya — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 00:47:35 +0000

I could've written this word for word. I was just thinking about this the other day when my 3 year old decided to dress himself. I was initially horrified when he came out dressed like the clothes hamper but had to take a step back and realize that while it wasn't what I'd want him to wear he did have every peice of clothing on properly. LaToya’s last blog post..Potty Time!!

By: Megan

Megan — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 04:33:42 +0000

@turnitupmom, it's very often that I am also unwillingly choosing to remind myself of the okay-ness of a situation. I have to catch myself in the midst of a response and make myself reflect (see! there's that reflection thing coming up again!) on what is fueling that response. It's amazing the things I've learned about myself since becoming a parent! Megan’s last blog post..Nurturing Independence in Our Children

By: Megan

Megan — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 04:30:59 +0000

@Tsh, doh! I totally forgot to put in my plug for book club discussion! Maybe it slipped my mind because I've fallen behind a bit on my reading. *blush* I have Free Range Kids on my Must Read list for after I finish Last Child in the Woods. I am so very, very interested in reading what she has to say about fear and parenting. I admit that a lot of my parenting fears find root in the media. Megan’s last blog post..Nurturing Independence in Our Children

By: Megan

Megan — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 04:29:09 +0000

@Marla Taviano, thank you, friend.

Megan’s last blog post..Nurturing Independence in Our Children

By: Megan

Megan — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 04:25:32 +0000

@Aimee, there are some things about which I am very laid-back, there are definitely things which I get very, very uptight about. It's a process of recognizing this in myself and seeking to hear the message they are hearing from me. It's not always a fun process, but well worth the effort. Megan’s last blog post..Nurturing Independence in Our Children

By: Megan

Megan — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 04:21:50 +0000

@steadymom, majoring on the big stuff, minoring on the little . . . exactly. Wonderfully worded truth in that! Megan’s last blog post..Nurturing Independence in Our Children