These are the days

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Written by Kara Fleck, Simple Kids editor and Rockin’ Granola mama.

Every once in a while even this simple living mama seems to need a gentle reminder that not all memories have to come from a big event or require fancy planning months ahead.

The small, unexpected things are pretty wonderful, too.

In this September frenzy of open houses, back to school, club meetings, and social occasions what I look forward to the most is the little moments:  quiet evenings at home, conversations on the porch swing, milk and cookies together after school.

My ten year old asked me if we could eat breakfast together outside last Sunday morning and it was some of the best 20 minutes of my week.  I’m glad I didn’t miss it.  I’m thankful I said “yes” when my first instinct was to try and talk her out of it.

Savor the small moments

Big picture planning is good, yes.  And I think it is important to have goals, both for yourself as a parent, and for your kids.  Think long-term and take the baby steps to get there.

But don’t get so caught up in the big picture that you don’t see the small things, the little bits of beauty right under your nose, the milestones that aren’t in the books but engrave themselves on your heart anyway.

If we’re rushing about we might not see the fairies dancing from their seed pods or we’ll miss the birds’ song.

If we aren’t really listening, we don’t properly savor the toddler’s adorable spoken  “punkin” that by next Autumn will be replaced with proper pronunciation or the way our four year old belts out Itsy Bitsy Spider with all the enthusiasm as if it were a Broadway classic.

Like those tiny seed fairies, these days will dance on the wind away from us.  Children grow and put down their roots in places we cannot always predict.  It is our job, not only to nurture and teach, but to cherish them.

There are appointments, of course, and things that must be done by the clock.  But, my friends, whenever you can, please take your child’s hand and instead of rushing them to keep up with your pace, slow yourself down to theirs’.

Look for those sprites dancing in the sunbeams, find the faces in the clouds, jump in a puddle or two.

Sing the songs your mama sang to you when you were a little girl on the porch swing, and say “yes” when your first instinct might be to decline their offers to play or have an unplanned adventure.

To paraphrase a favorite song, these are the days to remember. (I promise.)

Have a wonderful weekend, friends. Find some small moments and savor them!

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About Kara

Kara Fleck is the editor of Simple Kids. She is a small town mama, writer, knitter, bookworm, and hooligan. Kara lives in Indiana with her husband Christopher and their four children Jillian, Max, Lucy, and Amelia. You can find more of her writing at KElizabethFleck.com.

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  1. Life is lived in ordinary moments! The big moments are fun, but most of life is lived in the ordinary! Thanks for the reminder!
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  2. My daughter has started quietly singing the songs my mama sang to me while she goes about her day. It makes my heart swell.
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  3. And I thought I was the only one with an itsy bitsy spider belter in the house! It
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  4. Charleen Wong says:

    Just Lovely!!!! Let’s slow down, get down and play Mommies!!!!

  5. I needed to read this message this week! I’ve been much more focused on getting the kids to the places they need to go. -But I need to be more focused simply on the child in the car with me. Or when we’re not in the car…giving each kid a nice long back rub before bed and using that time to hear what’s on their mind.

    Even if a “no, let’s not do that” is the first response that pops into our head when our child asks for something special or different, we can learn to move past this response and see the lovely experiences that unfold afterward.
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  6. Just wanted to pop by & thank you for this beautiful post. We’ve been spending a lot of time working on our slowing down skills lately, too. It’s SO worth it. Have a wonderful weekend!
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  7. Love this post, very special and so true… it all passes by so very fast!!!
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  8. Thanks so much for this very important reminder Kara! Slowing down, being less hurried & scheduled is one of my current bathroom mirror goals, you brought light to the reason why.

  9. Thank you for this advice and reminder….

    “instead of rushing them to keep up with your pace, slow yourself down to theirs.”

    So long as it’s echoing through my mind, you’ll have managed to make the moments I share with my daughter a little sweeter, a little more savory. Wonderful to have come across this just…
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  10. Love the truth in this, friend.
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  11. One of my favorite memories with my son was sitting at the Target Starbucks when he was two years old, sharing a strawberry smoothie. He was so delighted to just *be* with his mommy; I took a “mental snapshot” which I often view in my mind’s eye so that I never lose that simple moment together.

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